How to deal with aggression

Posted by on Mar 29, 2016 in Parenting Advice Column | No Comments
How to deal with aggression

Hi Annie, I’m wondering how to deal with aggression on the part of my son.  My 9-year old son came home today with a note from his principle and teacher. The teacher listed 4 aggressive episodes that my son engaged in, in the last week and labelled them as “violent acts.” I know that every […]

How To Handle a Picky Eater

How To Handle a Picky Eater

Having picky eaters can drive any parent up the wall.  So if you want to know how to handle a picky eater, the first thing to look at is why you might be getting the behaviour and only then what you can do about it.  Firstly, I know how frustrating it can be.  There is […]

Toilet Training Troubles

Toilet Training Troubles

Is your child having toilet training troubles? This letter is from a mom in Spain who has toilet training troubles with her two year old and asks what to do with her son who won’t ask to use the potty on his own. I’ve been on the road to potty training my 34 month old […]

How Can I Get My Kids To Listen?

How Can I Get My Kids To Listen?

Here’s a question from Nancy as she asks, how can I get my kids to listen?  It’s a very common question and here’s my answer. Question:  How can I get my kids to listen? Hi Annie, I’ve got 3 kids, my oldest is turning 4 in January, the middle is 2 and my youngest is […]

How To Handle A Temper Tantrum In Public

How To Handle A Temper Tantrum In Public

Would you like to know how to handle a temper tantrum in public? Let’s first acknowledge there is nothing worse than being faced with how to handle a temper tantrum in public.  All those judgmental eyes starting at you and the half whispered comments just at the moment when you’re standing there and your toddler’s […]

Child Says Hurtful Things

Child Says Hurtful Things

Would you like to know what to do when your child says hurtful things? Words can be hurtful and none so more than when you’re called mean or kids say they hate you.  So if any parent says their child says hurtful things, here’s my advice on how to save their feelings and stop the […]

How To Stop Night Time Tantrums

How To Stop Night Time Tantrums

Would you like to know how to stop night time tantrums? When you’re faced with a question like how to stop night time tantrums, it’s likely you’re exhausted.  You’ve probably been up night after night, wishing and hoping that for just once your child would finally go to sleep without it being an enormous battle […]

Step Parenting Problems

Step Parenting Problems

Interested in solving step parenting problems? Step parenting problems are very common when families morph their structure and it often takes considerable time to build the cohesion necessary for a workable family unit.  Remember there are different personalities at play and no matter how hard you try you can only do your best if you’re […]

My Daughter Refuses To Clean Her Room

My Daughter Refuses To Clean Her Room

The complaint that my daughter refuses to clean her room are words I actually hear quite a lot and not to be sexist or anything, but I hear it more often referring to daughter’s bedrooms than I do those of sons.  I don’t know if I can say girls seem to collect more stuff but […]

How To Get Your Child To Listen

How To Get Your Child To Listen

How to get your child to listen is a question that keeps many parents up at night. It’s frustrating when kids simply don’t listen to you and you end up having to say the same thing over and over again.  Here’s a question from Nancy. Hi Annie, I’ve got 3 kids, my oldest is turning […]

My Son Hits My Daughter

My Son Hits My Daughter

Siblings fighting usually drives most parents up a wall and getting a question like what do I do when my son hits my daughter, is an extremely common parenting question.  Usually it’s an odd hit or push there but sometimes the behaviour becomes extreme and then it becomes a far bigger parent problem to solve. […]

What To Do When Your Child Gets Hit

What To Do When Your Child Gets Hit

Hi Annie, I’m wondering about the best approach when it comes to what to do when your child gets hit by another child?  Thanks, Jennifer Hi Jennifer,  That’s a great question and it is something that unfortunately happens a lot and which we often deal with in a way that causes even more problems later […]

How Do You Stop A Child Interrupting

How Do You Stop A Child Interrupting

Dear Annie, I am looking for some advise or suggestions on how to teach my 6 year old about personal space. He is a very social child, enjoys being around kids adults etc. however he always seems to need to get the attention of others.  When he arrives at school he yells, hugs and just acts […]

How To Handle A Child That Screams

How To Handle A Child That Screams

Annie – I’d like to know how to handle a child that screams.  Specifically, my 19 month old niece has a screaming problem.  She will for no reason scream and it is a piercing scream and her parents don’t know what to do about it. It is very disruptive and when we are all having […]

My Child Won’t Get Ready For School

My Child Won’t Get Ready For School

Hi Annie,  I hope you are having a great day!  I have a question for you.  I’d really appreciate your advice as my child won’t get ready for school.  He’s  6 years old and I’m having a hard time getting him to get ready for school every morning.   He is very particular about his pants.  The […]

What Do You Do With A Child That Says No

What Do You Do With A Child That Says No

Hi Annie.  I hope you are having a great day!   My question is, what do you do with a child that says no?  Our son is seven.   We taught our kids to believe that they are the boss of themselves mostly in terms of bullying but we told them that they are in control […]

My Son Won’t Do As He’s Told

My Son Won’t Do As He’s Told

Hello. I have a four year old son who is in preschool and has a VERY dominant personality. The bottom lines is my son won’t do as he’s told.  He has troubles listening and following the rules.  He wants to do his own things his own way. He has this problem at home as well. […]

My Son Won’t Sleep!

My Son Won’t Sleep!

Hi Annie,  My son won’t sleep!  He’s 3 1/2 year old and gets up 1-4 times a night comes into our room and says, ‘mom.’  I go back and tuck him in.  Sometimes it’s that easy, other times it’s a battle and he shouts, “I don’t want to go to sleep.” Sometimes he says, “No, go […]

How Can I Help My Child Overcome Fear

How Can I Help My Child Overcome Fear

Hi Annie, I have a question.  How can I help my child overcome fear?  Recently my son has started to get really worried about me. I had to help clean up after a party the other night and left after the fireworks and my husband put him to bed.  He cried for two straight hours […]

My Child Feels Left Out

My Child Feels Left Out

When any parent says my child feels left out I feel for them.  Theres no doubt that watching your child being left out of the play is heartbreaking.  All parents want the best for their child and when your child is purposely left out by others, it reminds us of our own painful experiences that […]

My Child Is Mean To Others

My Child Is Mean To Others

  Hi Annie, I don’t know what to do because my child is mean to others.  Today the teacher pulled me aside and told me that my three year old son was taking toys away from other kids and every time this one little girl would make something out of play dough, he would smash […]

My Toddler Won’t Sleep Alone

My Toddler Won’t Sleep Alone

  Hi Annie.  My toddler won’t sleep alone.  I have a twenty month old son and a six month old daughter and we’ve just moved house and given our son his own room for the first time, but the trouble is he hates it.  He used to have his bed in our room and I’ve […]

My Sons Keep Fighting

My Sons Keep Fighting

Hi Annie, My sons keep fighting! We have a six year old and just-turned-three year old pair of boys. We are at our wits’ end trying to stamp out their extremely physical play and interactions. Our six year old will quietly provoke our three year old until there’s a flurry of hitting, kicking and throwing of […]

My Child Uses Bad Language

My Child Uses Bad Language

Hey Annie, My child uses bad language. I mean, what do you do with a three year old with a dirty mouth? My three year old keeps saying the same bad word around family and it’s super embarassing. Have you got any suggestions for me? Jenna (Calgary) Hi Jenna, Firstly ask yourself where your child […]

My Child Hates The Car Seat

My Child Hates The Car Seat

Hi Annie, The problem is this, my child hates the car seat.  She’s two.  Every time we go on a trip she screams that she wants out.  We’ve tried various ways to help her enjoy the trip such as car snacks, toys and games, but it doesn’t work. It’s makes car trips a nightmare and […]

My Child Whines

My Child Whines

Hi Annie, My child whines.  In fact both my kids have a real problem with whining. When my daughter went through it, I thought it was a stage and it would stop by itself, but it hasn’t.  She’s now five and my son is copying the habit and he’s only two. I’m a single mom and […]

How Do I Stop My Child Being Irritating?

How Do I Stop My Child Being Irritating?

Hi Annie How do I stop my child being irritating?  I have two kids. My daughter is nine and my son is five. I have a problem in that my daughter irritates my son all the time.  She doesn’t mean to, but she mothers him so much that he just loses his temper and starts […]

My Child Keeps Interrupting

My Child Keeps Interrupting

Hi Annie. My child keeps interrupting. Have you got any ideas about what to you with a child that interrupts all the time? I’m a foster mother and I have a three year old girl that never lets me have a minute on the phone without her constantly pulling at me and interrupting.  She shouts […]

My Child Lives In A Fantasy World

My Child Lives In A Fantasy World

Dear Annie  My child lives in a fantasy world.  She’s five years old and a very cute and adorable girl. I love her so much and treat her as a princess. She was fascinated in the beginning to go to school.  However, after a couple of months, she started hating school and her teacher called us saying […]

I Need Some Sleep!

I Need Some Sleep!

Hi Annie, I need some sleep!  We have an almost 5 year old girl and a nine month old girl. With our oldest, we were guilty of letting her “cuddle” in our bed – often with the three of us falling back to sleep.  Before our baby was born we worked very hard to get her […]

I Need Help With My Daughter’s Behaviour

I Need Help With My Daughter’s Behaviour

Hello Annie.  I need help with my daughter’s behaviour.  I find myself at times screaming and yelling and it is the exact opposite of what I want to do. My girls are VERY BUSY and are always into things, climbing on things and one has now started ripping up her books. I have found that my […]

I Need Parenting Help!

I Need Parenting Help!

Hi Annie, I live in Chicago so I am not near you, but maybe you could point me in the direction I need. I have 3 children. 12, 4, and 16 mo and I need parenting help!  I am a stay at home mom that never seems to accomplish anything.  My 12 year old is […]

I Can’t Potty Train My Son

I Can’t Potty Train My Son

Dear Annie, We have a wonderful 3 year old boy that we are at odds over potty training with. The issue is, I can’t potty train my son or at least both of us are having difficulty. Both my husband and I have been watching for the typical signs of readiness and thought we were […]

How Do I Change My Baby’s Routine?

How Do I Change My Baby’s Routine?

  Hello Annie. I’d like to know how do I change my baby’s routine? In fact, I’m having trouble establishing a routine at all for my 4-month-old son. He does have some semblance of a routine, but it’s very variable.  One week he’s fine with it, the other he’s not. His feedings are all over […]

How Long Is Too Long In A Baby Swing

How Long Is Too Long In A Baby Swing

Hi Annie,  My question is how long is too long in a baby swing?  We have a 3.5 month old baby girl who is content in a baby swing while we eat or make supper. She is also in the swing on occasion during the day while my wife makes lunch, etc.However, my wife said […]

I Can’t Get My Toddler To Sleep

I Can’t Get My Toddler To Sleep

Dear Annie. I can’t get my toddler to sleep!  Our 13 month old son started at a Day home 3 weeks ago when I went back to work and he does not seem to be adjusting very well. He cries and cries and he won’t take any naps there, so he is exhausted when we pick […]

I Need Help With My Children’s Behaviour

I Need Help With My Children’s Behaviour

Dear Annie, We are an Indian family living in Bahrain and I need help with my children’s behaviour.  We have two school going sons aged 6+ and 3+ years and a daughter of 3+ months. Our elder son who is in 2nd standard, is a quiet kid but he cannot concentrate on what he is […]

Child Has No Respect

Child Has No Respect

Hello Annie, My best friend has adopted a girl from China. Her daughter is 10 years old now and the child has no respect! She has ADHD, high functioning autism, and many other diagnoses. She is out of control and has no respect for her mother. Her mother wants to change things but when this kid […]

My Child Is Out Of Control

My Child Is Out Of Control

Hi there!  I am a mother of two and my child is out of control!  She is a diva!  My son will be 4 in November and my daughter will be 2 1/2. My husband and I are in our 30’s and have really enjoyed parenthood for the most part. My daughter has always been […]

My Child Is Driving Me Crazy!

My Child Is Driving Me Crazy!

Hi Annie.  My child is driving me crazy.  My four year old daughter’s behaviour is very trying. She hits an awful lot, and although it is playful it is also hurtful. She has a 15-month-old brother with whom she is very rough, and he enjoys the rough-housing but of course occasionally he gets hurt. Worse, […]

I Need A Good Night’s Sleep

I Need A Good Night’s Sleep

Hello Annie.  Help! I need a good night’s sleep!  I have a baby boy who will be 6 months on Jan 31 and he is my first child. My question is to do around sleep and not sure if you deal with babes this young? My husband and I have read every book possible, Baby Whisper […]

My Child Sleeps With Me

My Child Sleeps With Me

Dear Annie. Congratulations for your website, it is very helpful!  I have a question for you.  My child sleeps with me.  Lately I am having problems as my 15 month old son wakes up crying during the night. At start I thought he was having teething pains but then I have discovered that if I […]

My Son Is Very Disrespectful

My Son Is Very Disrespectful

Hi Annie.  My son is very disrespectful to me.  He’s 3.5 year old. He roars, swears and has tantrums at the drop of a hat. He does not act this way towards his father. I am wondering if there is any advice you can give me. We also have a two year old boy who […]

I Have An Unhappy Baby

I Have An Unhappy Baby

Hello Annie, We have 17 week old fraternal twin girls and I have an unhappy baby.  We just  moved the family to Calgary, where we have no support network or friends…and we seem to have a problem with one of the girls. While twin A is always content and happy (and easy to pacify), twin B tends […]

How Do I Stop Siblings From Fighting?

How Do I Stop Siblings From Fighting?

Hi Annie. I am a mother of 3 children, a 5 year old girl and twin boys 3 years old and my question is, how do I stop siblings from fighting?  They are busy and a hand full on the best of days. But lately, the boys are wrestling and now fighting( punching) each other constantly. […]

How Do I Get My Child To Sleep By Himself?

How Do I Get My Child To Sleep By Himself?

Hi Annie.  I was looking for some information on line or rather some insight and there was your website. My question is, how do I get my child to sleep by himself?  My son is 7 yrs. old. He still needs one of us to lay down with him until he falls asleep. Help!  From the time […]

My Child Won’t Go To Sleep

My Child Won’t Go To Sleep

I have a problem in that my child won’t go to sleep.  We have a 15 month old that suddenly started hating to go to sleep and won’t stay asleep. He wakes up wailing, completely unconsolable, throws his soother, his zebra blankie and will reach out to get out of his crib.  He then squirms […]

My Child Won’t Stop Hitting People

My Child Won’t Stop Hitting People

Hi Annie, My child won’t stop hitting people.  There weeks ago, my son turned 3.   The one thing we are struggling with is anger.  When he gets hurt physically, if he bumps his head or falls down or emotionally if another child pushes him or screams at him, he will start to cry, come find me […]

I Hate Crafts

I Hate Crafts

Hi Annie, I feel guilty but I hate crafts.  I’m just no good at them and they bore me!  I get it’s cold and there’s no much else to do so we meet with my girlfriends and their kids a lot for playdates but it’s the same thing, more crafts!   If I see another […]

I Don’t Want To Yell At My Child

I Don’t Want To Yell At My Child

  Hi Annie,  I don’t want to yell at my child but I’d like to know how to get my eight year old boy to do things without me having to yell at him?  It’s not like he doesn’t hear me the first time. Hi Lesley, I know what you mean.  Many parents say to me, I […]

Help My Child Won’t Poop

Help My Child Won’t Poop

Hi Annie Help my child won’t poop!  How do I get my FIVE year old to poop? Doctors say it is behaviour related, nothing medical.

How To Get My Child To Sleep Through The Night?

How To Get My Child To Sleep Through The Night?

This question was asked during one of my CTV parenting segments. So, the question was, how to get my child to sleep through the night? Seems easier said than done but like anything with being a parent, consistency is key.  To begin with we’ll take a look at how to get them in bed in […]

How To Help My Child Deal With Change

Posted by on Jul 19, 2015 in Parenting Advice Column | No Comments
How To Help My Child Deal With Change

Hi Annie, I have a question about how to help my child deal with change? It is soon summer camp season and my five year old son is excited to attend. Last year we found while he LOVES camps, he is always sad to see them end and becomes anxious about the next one- he […]

My Child Won’t Sit On The Potty

My Child Won’t Sit On The Potty

Hi Annie, My child won’t sit on the potty. Jade is terrified of the potty and the toilet.  If I ask her if she wants to go without a diaper, she has a meltdown.  She is genuinely scared and although I am in no immediate rush to potty train, I would like to try and […]

My Child Is A Picky Eater

My Child Is A Picky Eater

My child is a picky eater.  She’s one year old and used to eat anything and now she refuses to eat meat and vegetables (unless they are green).  She could live on pasta and fruit.  What should I do? Thanks Rowena Hi Rowena, I understand how frustrating this is for you.  It’s much more difficult to deal […]

How To Handle Transitions

Posted by on Jul 19, 2015 in Parenting Advice Column | No Comments
How To Handle Transitions

Hi Annie, I’m looking for some advice on how to handle transitions. I will be returning to work from 2nd Maternity leave in March. My concern is my 5 yr old. She has really enjoyed me being home and being able to pick her up from kindergarten everyday and just having me at home. I […]

My Child Vomits When Upset.

My Child Vomits When Upset.

Hi Annie, I have 3 kids aged 8, 6 & 2 1/2 and my child vomits when upset. On top of that we are having a lot of issues with all 3 of them but right now, my biggest issue is that I can not get my 2 1/2 year old daughter to stop breastfeeding and that’s […]

How Do I Handle Toddler Tantrums?

How Do I Handle Toddler Tantrums?

Hi Annie, How do I handle toddler tantrums?  I think that I usually handle my almost 2 year olds tantrums quite well as I ignore her, but I struggle when dealing with this in public. I find it challenging to manage the staring and questioning of ‘who’s kid is that?’ That’s particularly the case when […]

My Child Has Food Allergies

My Child Has Food Allergies

Hi Annie I’ve recently found out that my child has food allergies.  He’s five and and has high food sensitivities. We have to eliminate dairy, gluten, eggs, and citrus 95% for the next 3-6 months. My son is very sad to see his favourite foods go. How do I help him process this? We have […]

My Child Bites And Pinches

My Child Bites And Pinches

Hi Annie, My child bites and pinches.  She’s  2 years and 3 months old.  How do I stop it?  Please.  Thanks, Sasha Hi Sasha, That’s a great question and the answer lies in understanding that your child is entering a new stage. In babyhood, you did everything for your child. You provided love, cuddles and took care […]

My Son Has Low Self Esteem

My Son Has Low Self Esteem

Hello Annie, My son has low self esteem.  He’s eight.  I always try to tell him how well he does things yet he does not believe me. He constantly thinks he has to do everything perfect the first time and melts down if he doesn’t. Do you have any solutions or recommend any good books […]

My Child Won’t Sleep!

My Child Won’t Sleep!

Hi Annie, My child won’t sleep!  My daughter is one and I can’t get her on a decent sleeping schedule. Any suggestions?  Michelle. Hello Michelle,  Thanks for the question.  I don’t have a lot of information to go on here so I’m going to do my best surmising what may be happening to you.  One year […]

What To Do About Child Clothing Sensitivity

What To Do About Child Clothing Sensitivity

Hello Annie.  My 7 year old granddaughter is having daily battles with her parents about getting dressed.  It’s just I don’t know what to do about child clothing sensitivity.  Each day is at least a half hour of yelling, screaming and crying. They have purchased the clothes she picks out and “wants” but it has […]

My Kid Won’t Listen!

My Kid Won’t Listen!

Hi Annie, My kid won’t listen.  She is 19 months.  She throws her food on the floor after eating and won’t stop no matter what I do.  She is starting to hit and won’t say sorry afterwards.  She is quite the stubborn cookie!  Having said that, she is a great, happy girl though.  Thanks Rowena. […]

My Two Year Old is Out of Control!

My Two Year Old is Out of Control!

Hi there Annie, My two year old is out of control so I’m seeking help for my boy who will be 3 in April. I feel like he’s totally out of control and I have tried everything I can possibly think of to get him to change.  It seems as though he spends most of […]